HW#57 How should kids be parented

How should kids be parented?

My opinions of how to parent a kid comes mostly from my mom, movies, manga, and stories. I believe kids should be raised with love, care, and with more freedom than us teenagers but still limited so they don't do anything rash or crazy, and also be discipline but I'm still not sure if i would want a kid to learn from his mistakes through a beating, i think slapping the kid once when he does something really bad is reasonable, since i don't think time out is that strong of a discipline. Also when it comes to breast feeding vs bottle, i think i would breast feed the child the majority of the time and for like when we're out to use the bottle, since "experts believe breast milk is the best nutritional choice for infants"(kidshealth) and then i'd probably stop breasting feeding at at-least 12 months which is what the AAP (Academy of Pediatrics) encourages. Babies should probably treated like puppies i guess because i think they're still too young to be treated like an adult.

The best parts of how my mom raised me when i was little was she would always hold my hand, hug me, and give me a good night kiss on the cheek or forehead, I really liked that when i was little because it showed my mom loved me and i liked it when i was showered with affection. We also slept in the same bed and i think all of this is the reason why I'm such a mama's girl and don't like being apart from her for toooo long even though its necessary to grow up. My mom also raised my to be a polite girl which is probably why I'm somewhat polite even with my friends, thats probably why I'm also slightly paranoid with my actions/words than other people, since i don't like hurting peoples feeling, because i would feel really guilty.

I think when it comes to parenting, it doesn't really come that natural, maybe if you grew up surrounded with little kids and babies and having to babysit a lot, than i guess parenting would come more naturally to you than others that don't know how to deal with babies and little kids, they would probably be more awkward.

HW#56

1) What is your ideal "best friend"?

Oni: Someone who talks to you about anything. Doesnt have to have the same personality. Actually someone i can look up to.

Naomi: I guess someone who listens and is loyal and trustworthy and isnt shallow and is actually funny.


2) What does it take for a person to go from "friend" to "best friend"?

Oni: Getting a gift of value, not just cause of a holiday and or asking him a really big favor and he/she does it for you

Naomi: um i dont know i guess it just happens over time the longer im friends with them.


3) what happens to make a "friend" become an "old friend"?

Oni: We change our ways, lifestyles and beliefs, like moving, or having ur pov changed.

Naomi: when we stop communicating or we go to different schools i guess and then we run into each other later on in life.

HW#55

Friends

-what changes between friends to make them become old friends?
-what are the difference between "friends" "good friends and best friends"?
-whats an ideal friend?

research:

"FRIENDS: Never ask for anything to eat or drink.
BEST FRIENDS: Helps themselves and are the reason why you have no food.

FRIENDS: Call your parents by Mr. and Mrs. and Grandpa, by Grandpa.
BEST FRIENDS: Call your parents DAD and MOM and Grandpa, GRAMPS!


FRIENDS: Would bail you out of jail.
BEST FRIENDS: Would be sitting next to you sayin "DAMN!" we ****ed up!

FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry.
BEST FRIENDS: Wont tell everyone else you cried...just laugh about it with you in private when your not down anymore.


FRIENDS: Asks you to write down your number.
BEST FRIENDS: Has you on speed dial.

FRIENDS: Borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
BEST FRIENDS: Loses your shit and tells you, "My bad...here's a tissue."


FRIENDS: Only know a few things about you.
BEST FRIENDS: Could write a very embarrassing biography on your life story...


FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
BEST FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds ass that left you

FRIENDS: Would knock on your front door.
BEST FRIENDS: Walk right in and say "I'M HOME."

FRIENDS: You have to tell them not to tell anyone.
BEST FRIENDS: Already know not to tell.


FRIENDS: Are only through highschool/college. (aka: drinking buddies)
BEST FRIENDS: Are for life.

FRIENDS: Will be there to take your drink away from you when they think you've had enough.
BEST FRIENDS: Will look at you stumbling all over the place & say "Bitch drink the rest of that ! You know we don't waste!

FRIENDS: Would ignore this letter
BEST FRIENDS: Will repost this shittttt!!!"


So apparently best friends are people who are rude, and seemingly bad influence. Kind of contradicting when people say best friends are people who help shape you into a better person. But no one really knows who will actually be a best friend, one day you'll be calling this person you're best friend and like a couple months later it'll be just friends or ex-friends.

HW#54 test

ISFP - "Artist". Interested in the fine arts. Expression primarily through action or art form. The senses are keener than in other types. 8.8% of total population.

Free Jung Personality Test (similar to Myers-Briggs/MBTI)

Longer version of result:

-disorganized, timid, prone to discouragement, socially uncomfortable, does not like leadership, suggestible, not self confident, not aggressive, lower energy, fearful, anxious, easily distracted, prone to discontentment, guarded, not confrontational, prone to longing for a stabilizing relationship, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, easily disturbed, fears drawing attention to self, prone to confusion, private, second guesses self, prone to quitting, underachiever, fears rejection in relationships, emotionally moody, prone to sadness, dislikes change, indecisive, modest, doubting, prone to laziness

-favored careers:
sports management, pediatrician, school teacher, carpenter, veterinary technician, singer, health educator, stay at home parent, hospitality worker, pastor, athlete, physician assistant, photographer, health care worker, shop assistant, stylist, website designer

-disfavored careers:
professor, marketing, academic, criminal psychologist, politician, comic book artist, actor, psychoanalyst, dj, judge, entrepreneur, attorney

my response part 1:

My result was artist and i have to agree with the part that says I'm interested in fine arts, but i don't know if my senses are keener then other because i don't really think of myself as someone whose really that different from other people. But i guess maybe its true? i know whenever i watch sad things, read sad stories, or even daydream/dream about something sad i tend to feel really sad to the point where it does feel like I'm the one whose also experiencing it. Though I'm still not sure if my senses are keener than others or I'm just really good at imagining.

I do agree with the larger version of my result, its exactly how i am, I do tend to be timid and feel all those emotions, though i don't mind change, so thats one part i disagree with, but other then that its very like me, and my results to me, seem like the results of someone who really wants to fit in, which i do agree with i guess, since being accepted makes life seem more meaningful. Also the jobs I'd favor i agree with, i tend to like things that are easier to do, like being a at home mom, and i was considering becoming a health pathologist, or something that has to do with art, or a school counselor or a daycare worker.

Though i do think my second results, INFP is pretty accurate too, more the way i am, then the careers though
second result:----creative, smart, idealist, loner, attracted to sad things, disorganized, avoidant, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, prone to quitting, prone to feelings of loneliness, ambivalent of the rules, solitary, daydreams about people to maintain a sense of closeness, focus on fantasies, acts without planning, low self confidence, emotionally moody, can feel defective, prone to lateness, likes esoteric things, wounded at the core, feels shame, frequently losing things, prone to sadness, prone to dreaming about a rescuer, disorderly, observer, easily distracted, does not like crowds, can act without thinking, private, can feel uncomfortable around others, familiar with the darkside, hermit, more likely to support marijuana legalization, can sabotage self, likes the rain, sometimes can't control fearful thoughts, prone to crying, prone to regret, attracted to the counter culture, can be submissive, prone to feeling discouraged, frequently second guesses self, not punctual, not always prepared, can feel victimized, prone to confusion, prone to irresponsibility, can be pessimistic

There much alike between the two, but i think the second one is probably more accurate with the personality part, but then again don't people have more then one masks, maybe because we've been playing them so much we cant ever take the test accurately.

HW#53

When taking the survey i felt really open like i was telling people face to face on how i really feel and how i really think, even though its an anonymous, which i find interesting, even when there is no one around we still cant handle letting the truth out because its one of the most hardest and uncomfortable thing to do, because it'll show the other personality we have when no one is around, the "real me" personality that most people dont really want to show off, since to ourselves its shameful, uncool and ugly. I noticed how contradicting my answers were one moment they'd be positive and then next negative even though the questions were slightly similar.

In the results i was kind of surprised to see how maybe people didnt do chores, because most people i know would complain whenever they have to do something for their parents yet most dont do chores. Also makes me wonder because parents always want their kids to be responsible when they get older yet the majority dont even do a half hour of chores. I was also surprised by the number of people who thought of suicide, because whenever we see other people in the halls they look fine to us, shows how well people have gotten with their masks. Also the majority of people not doing drugs or ever being drunk surprised me, since im always hearing about experiences others are having, but i guess like some said in class, not everybody took the test so i guess the answers are really accurate.

Similarities the surveys has with ours is the majority of teens are having sex, the difference though is the kids in the second survey had a higher drug percentage then others, but than again ours isnt really accurate.

HW#51

Schools are a place where we go to learn the things our parents, and other authorities want us to learn, to be brought up in the same way as everybody else. Schools are just another institution that trains us students, the inmates to behave how they want us to.

In our young years in school like kindergarten, we're taught that we can speak out with out permission, not to speak while the teachers are speaking and to do whatever the teacher tells you to do, because "the adults know best". In school we're taught that the teachers are superior and the students inferior, that we cant become successful without them.

Even though we try to loosen up the power by not paying attention to the teachers or not doing the work assigned to us, but we still go to school, we still go and sit down in class like we're suppose to and even though people put the blame on their parents, that only shows even more that we're like trained pets, that are just going through that rebellious stage. Also if we act out too much we get in trouble, which is something we don't really want to have, so after a certain time of being discipline we eventually just star following the rules, like dogs who don't want their noses in their poop.

I think even though there are teachers that try to break the trends the teachers use to teach but going against the system, like how Robin Williams did in Dead Poets Society, but doing things differently, it doesn't really matter, because the teacher is stilling training you to become a certain way, they're just using a different method to do it.

I don't really think there is a way to escape the system, because even though you could go and teach yourself from books and visiting other countries, you're still getting other peoples insights which are shaping you up, to become someone else, and also if not teachers its parents, or the laws because if you break the law you'll end up in jail where its actually an institution and you cant act out because you'll just get into even more trouble.

HW#52 initial theories of human relationships

Theories i have about why people depend on relationships so much are so that they can feel important because thats something everybody wants to feel, to feel like you actually matter to people. Also to make their life more meaningful, because if people care for you and think you're important than you'll feel better with your life vs being completely alone.

Other times its also to use people, like us students use the teacher to get a better education, we use our parents for a place to live and food to eat, probably because using other people makes us feel like we have more power than we really do, and one thing people want is control in their life.

Friendship for me its like having a different set of families just without the same blood running through our veins. Friends are people who you have fun with and enjoy being with, who make you happy and your life more meaningful. Friends are people we use to entertain us, people to pass time with, just like a toy or a pet.

Lovers - they're being that are just like friends expect with lovers you can go pass the friendship level of doing things, like kissing, sex, which friends do too sometimes, though lovers have a different title like boyfriend/girlfriend. People use lovers as another way to release stress and also pass on their genes.

Also in relationships its kinda like christmas, you give someone something so they'll give you something back, because in a relationship both partners are benefitting from it, they make each other seem important, and show each other off to other people which makes both feel good and important because they're great enough to be shown off and because it shows they actually have friends and people that like them, because if you're all alone people usually pity loners for not having anyone, and other think that the loner must be extremely uncool and unimportant to not have people who want to be around them.