How should kids be parented?
My opinions of how to parent a kid comes mostly from my mom, movies, manga, and stories. I believe kids should be raised with love, care, and with more freedom than us teenagers but still limited so they don't do anything rash or crazy, and also be discipline but I'm still not sure if i would want a kid to learn from his mistakes through a beating, i think slapping the kid once when he does something really bad is reasonable, since i don't think time out is that strong of a discipline. Also when it comes to breast feeding vs bottle, i think i would breast feed the child the majority of the time and for like when we're out to use the bottle, since "experts believe breast milk is the best nutritional choice for infants"(kidshealth) and then i'd probably stop breasting feeding at at-least 12 months which is what the AAP (Academy of Pediatrics) encourages. Babies should probably treated like puppies i guess because i think they're still too young to be treated like an adult.
The best parts of how my mom raised me when i was little was she would always hold my hand, hug me, and give me a good night kiss on the cheek or forehead, I really liked that when i was little because it showed my mom loved me and i liked it when i was showered with affection. We also slept in the same bed and i think all of this is the reason why I'm such a mama's girl and don't like being apart from her for toooo long even though its necessary to grow up. My mom also raised my to be a polite girl which is probably why I'm somewhat polite even with my friends, thats probably why I'm also slightly paranoid with my actions/words than other people, since i don't like hurting peoples feeling, because i would feel really guilty.
I think when it comes to parenting, it doesn't really come that natural, maybe if you grew up surrounded with little kids and babies and having to babysit a lot, than i guess parenting would come more naturally to you than others that don't know how to deal with babies and little kids, they would probably be more awkward.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Sunday, May 16, 2010
HW#56
1) What is your ideal "best friend"?
Oni: Someone who talks to you about anything. Doesnt have to have the same personality. Actually someone i can look up to.
Naomi: I guess someone who listens and is loyal and trustworthy and isnt shallow and is actually funny.
2) What does it take for a person to go from "friend" to "best friend"?
Oni: Getting a gift of value, not just cause of a holiday and or asking him a really big favor and he/she does it for you
Naomi: um i dont know i guess it just happens over time the longer im friends with them.
3) what happens to make a "friend" become an "old friend"?
Oni: We change our ways, lifestyles and beliefs, like moving, or having ur pov changed.
Naomi: when we stop communicating or we go to different schools i guess and then we run into each other later on in life.
Oni: Someone who talks to you about anything. Doesnt have to have the same personality. Actually someone i can look up to.
Naomi: I guess someone who listens and is loyal and trustworthy and isnt shallow and is actually funny.
2) What does it take for a person to go from "friend" to "best friend"?
Oni: Getting a gift of value, not just cause of a holiday and or asking him a really big favor and he/she does it for you
Naomi: um i dont know i guess it just happens over time the longer im friends with them.
3) what happens to make a "friend" become an "old friend"?
Oni: We change our ways, lifestyles and beliefs, like moving, or having ur pov changed.
Naomi: when we stop communicating or we go to different schools i guess and then we run into each other later on in life.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
HW#55
Friends
-what changes between friends to make them become old friends?
-what are the difference between "friends" "good friends and best friends"?
-whats an ideal friend?
research:
"FRIENDS: Never ask for anything to eat or drink.
BEST FRIENDS: Helps themselves and are the reason why you have no food.
FRIENDS: Call your parents by Mr. and Mrs. and Grandpa, by Grandpa.
BEST FRIENDS: Call your parents DAD and MOM and Grandpa, GRAMPS!
FRIENDS: Would bail you out of jail.
BEST FRIENDS: Would be sitting next to you sayin "DAMN!" we ****ed up!
FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry.
BEST FRIENDS: Wont tell everyone else you cried...just laugh about it with you in private when your not down anymore.
FRIENDS: Asks you to write down your number.
BEST FRIENDS: Has you on speed dial.
FRIENDS: Borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
BEST FRIENDS: Loses your shit and tells you, "My bad...here's a tissue."
FRIENDS: Only know a few things about you.
BEST FRIENDS: Could write a very embarrassing biography on your life story...
FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
BEST FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds ass that left you
FRIENDS: Would knock on your front door.
BEST FRIENDS: Walk right in and say "I'M HOME."
FRIENDS: You have to tell them not to tell anyone.
BEST FRIENDS: Already know not to tell.
FRIENDS: Are only through highschool/college. (aka: drinking buddies)
BEST FRIENDS: Are for life.
FRIENDS: Will be there to take your drink away from you when they think you've had enough.
BEST FRIENDS: Will look at you stumbling all over the place & say "Bitch drink the rest of that ! You know we don't waste!
FRIENDS: Would ignore this letter
BEST FRIENDS: Will repost this shittttt!!!"
So apparently best friends are people who are rude, and seemingly bad influence. Kind of contradicting when people say best friends are people who help shape you into a better person. But no one really knows who will actually be a best friend, one day you'll be calling this person you're best friend and like a couple months later it'll be just friends or ex-friends.
-what changes between friends to make them become old friends?
-what are the difference between "friends" "good friends and best friends"?
-whats an ideal friend?
research:
"FRIENDS: Never ask for anything to eat or drink.
BEST FRIENDS: Helps themselves and are the reason why you have no food.
FRIENDS: Call your parents by Mr. and Mrs. and Grandpa, by Grandpa.
BEST FRIENDS: Call your parents DAD and MOM and Grandpa, GRAMPS!
FRIENDS: Would bail you out of jail.
BEST FRIENDS: Would be sitting next to you sayin "DAMN!" we ****ed up!
FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry.
BEST FRIENDS: Wont tell everyone else you cried...just laugh about it with you in private when your not down anymore.
FRIENDS: Asks you to write down your number.
BEST FRIENDS: Has you on speed dial.
FRIENDS: Borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
BEST FRIENDS: Loses your shit and tells you, "My bad...here's a tissue."
FRIENDS: Only know a few things about you.
BEST FRIENDS: Could write a very embarrassing biography on your life story...
FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing.
BEST FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds ass that left you
FRIENDS: Would knock on your front door.
BEST FRIENDS: Walk right in and say "I'M HOME."
FRIENDS: You have to tell them not to tell anyone.
BEST FRIENDS: Already know not to tell.
FRIENDS: Are only through highschool/college. (aka: drinking buddies)
BEST FRIENDS: Are for life.
FRIENDS: Will be there to take your drink away from you when they think you've had enough.
BEST FRIENDS: Will look at you stumbling all over the place & say "Bitch drink the rest of that ! You know we don't waste!
FRIENDS: Would ignore this letter
BEST FRIENDS: Will repost this shittttt!!!"
So apparently best friends are people who are rude, and seemingly bad influence. Kind of contradicting when people say best friends are people who help shape you into a better person. But no one really knows who will actually be a best friend, one day you'll be calling this person you're best friend and like a couple months later it'll be just friends or ex-friends.
Monday, May 10, 2010
HW#54 test
| ISFP - "Artist". Interested in the fine arts. Expression primarily through action or art form. The senses are keener than in other types. 8.8% of total population. |
Longer version of result:
-disorganized, timid, prone to discouragement, socially uncomfortable, does not like leadership, suggestible, not self confident, not aggressive, lower energy, fearful, anxious, easily distracted, prone to discontentment, guarded, not confrontational, prone to longing for a stabilizing relationship, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, easily disturbed, fears drawing attention to self, prone to confusion, private, second guesses self, prone to quitting, underachiever, fears rejection in relationships, emotionally moody, prone to sadness, dislikes change, indecisive, modest, doubting, prone to laziness
-favored careers:
sports management, pediatrician, school teacher, carpenter, veterinary technician, singer, health educator, stay at home parent, hospitality worker, pastor, athlete, physician assistant, photographer, health care worker, shop assistant, stylist, website designer
-disfavored careers:
professor, marketing, academic, criminal psychologist, politician, comic book artist, actor, psychoanalyst, dj, judge, entrepreneur, attorney
my response part 1:
My result was artist and i have to agree with the part that says I'm interested in fine arts, but i don't know if my senses are keener then other because i don't really think of myself as someone whose really that different from other people. But i guess maybe its true? i know whenever i watch sad things, read sad stories, or even daydream/dream about something sad i tend to feel really sad to the point where it does feel like I'm the one whose also experiencing it. Though I'm still not sure if my senses are keener than others or I'm just really good at imagining.
I do agree with the larger version of my result, its exactly how i am, I do tend to be timid and feel all those emotions, though i don't mind change, so thats one part i disagree with, but other then that its very like me, and my results to me, seem like the results of someone who really wants to fit in, which i do agree with i guess, since being accepted makes life seem more meaningful. Also the jobs I'd favor i agree with, i tend to like things that are easier to do, like being a at home mom, and i was considering becoming a health pathologist, or something that has to do with art, or a school counselor or a daycare worker.
Though i do think my second results, INFP is pretty accurate too, more the way i am, then the careers though
second result:----creative, smart, idealist, loner, attracted to sad things, disorganized, avoidant, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, prone to quitting, prone to feelings of loneliness, ambivalent of the rules, solitary, daydreams about people to maintain a sense of closeness, focus on fantasies, acts without planning, low self confidence, emotionally moody, can feel defective, prone to lateness, likes esoteric things, wounded at the core, feels shame, frequently losing things, prone to sadness, prone to dreaming about a rescuer, disorderly, observer, easily distracted, does not like crowds, can act without thinking, private, can feel uncomfortable around others, familiar with the darkside, hermit, more likely to support marijuana legalization, can sabotage self, likes the rain, sometimes can't control fearful thoughts, prone to crying, prone to regret, attracted to the counter culture, can be submissive, prone to feeling discouraged, frequently second guesses self, not punctual, not always prepared, can feel victimized, prone to confusion, prone to irresponsibility, can be pessimistic
There much alike between the two, but i think the second one is probably more accurate with the personality part, but then again don't people have more then one masks, maybe because we've been playing them so much we cant ever take the test accurately.
Sunday, May 9, 2010
HW#53
When taking the survey i felt really open like i was telling people face to face on how i really feel and how i really think, even though its an anonymous, which i find interesting, even when there is no one around we still cant handle letting the truth out because its one of the most hardest and uncomfortable thing to do, because it'll show the other personality we have when no one is around, the "real me" personality that most people dont really want to show off, since to ourselves its shameful, uncool and ugly. I noticed how contradicting my answers were one moment they'd be positive and then next negative even though the questions were slightly similar.
In the results i was kind of surprised to see how maybe people didnt do chores, because most people i know would complain whenever they have to do something for their parents yet most dont do chores. Also makes me wonder because parents always want their kids to be responsible when they get older yet the majority dont even do a half hour of chores. I was also surprised by the number of people who thought of suicide, because whenever we see other people in the halls they look fine to us, shows how well people have gotten with their masks. Also the majority of people not doing drugs or ever being drunk surprised me, since im always hearing about experiences others are having, but i guess like some said in class, not everybody took the test so i guess the answers are really accurate.
Similarities the surveys has with ours is the majority of teens are having sex, the difference though is the kids in the second survey had a higher drug percentage then others, but than again ours isnt really accurate.
In the results i was kind of surprised to see how maybe people didnt do chores, because most people i know would complain whenever they have to do something for their parents yet most dont do chores. Also makes me wonder because parents always want their kids to be responsible when they get older yet the majority dont even do a half hour of chores. I was also surprised by the number of people who thought of suicide, because whenever we see other people in the halls they look fine to us, shows how well people have gotten with their masks. Also the majority of people not doing drugs or ever being drunk surprised me, since im always hearing about experiences others are having, but i guess like some said in class, not everybody took the test so i guess the answers are really accurate.
Similarities the surveys has with ours is the majority of teens are having sex, the difference though is the kids in the second survey had a higher drug percentage then others, but than again ours isnt really accurate.
Monday, May 3, 2010
HW#51
Schools are a place where we go to learn the things our parents, and other authorities want us to learn, to be brought up in the same way as everybody else. Schools are just another institution that trains us students, the inmates to behave how they want us to.
In our young years in school like kindergarten, we're taught that we can speak out with out permission, not to speak while the teachers are speaking and to do whatever the teacher tells you to do, because "the adults know best". In school we're taught that the teachers are superior and the students inferior, that we cant become successful without them.
Even though we try to loosen up the power by not paying attention to the teachers or not doing the work assigned to us, but we still go to school, we still go and sit down in class like we're suppose to and even though people put the blame on their parents, that only shows even more that we're like trained pets, that are just going through that rebellious stage. Also if we act out too much we get in trouble, which is something we don't really want to have, so after a certain time of being discipline we eventually just star following the rules, like dogs who don't want their noses in their poop.
I think even though there are teachers that try to break the trends the teachers use to teach but going against the system, like how Robin Williams did in Dead Poets Society, but doing things differently, it doesn't really matter, because the teacher is stilling training you to become a certain way, they're just using a different method to do it.
I don't really think there is a way to escape the system, because even though you could go and teach yourself from books and visiting other countries, you're still getting other peoples insights which are shaping you up, to become someone else, and also if not teachers its parents, or the laws because if you break the law you'll end up in jail where its actually an institution and you cant act out because you'll just get into even more trouble.
In our young years in school like kindergarten, we're taught that we can speak out with out permission, not to speak while the teachers are speaking and to do whatever the teacher tells you to do, because "the adults know best". In school we're taught that the teachers are superior and the students inferior, that we cant become successful without them.
Even though we try to loosen up the power by not paying attention to the teachers or not doing the work assigned to us, but we still go to school, we still go and sit down in class like we're suppose to and even though people put the blame on their parents, that only shows even more that we're like trained pets, that are just going through that rebellious stage. Also if we act out too much we get in trouble, which is something we don't really want to have, so after a certain time of being discipline we eventually just star following the rules, like dogs who don't want their noses in their poop.
I think even though there are teachers that try to break the trends the teachers use to teach but going against the system, like how Robin Williams did in Dead Poets Society, but doing things differently, it doesn't really matter, because the teacher is stilling training you to become a certain way, they're just using a different method to do it.
I don't really think there is a way to escape the system, because even though you could go and teach yourself from books and visiting other countries, you're still getting other peoples insights which are shaping you up, to become someone else, and also if not teachers its parents, or the laws because if you break the law you'll end up in jail where its actually an institution and you cant act out because you'll just get into even more trouble.
HW#52 initial theories of human relationships
Theories i have about why people depend on relationships so much are so that they can feel important because thats something everybody wants to feel, to feel like you actually matter to people. Also to make their life more meaningful, because if people care for you and think you're important than you'll feel better with your life vs being completely alone.
Other times its also to use people, like us students use the teacher to get a better education, we use our parents for a place to live and food to eat, probably because using other people makes us feel like we have more power than we really do, and one thing people want is control in their life.
Friendship for me its like having a different set of families just without the same blood running through our veins. Friends are people who you have fun with and enjoy being with, who make you happy and your life more meaningful. Friends are people we use to entertain us, people to pass time with, just like a toy or a pet.
Lovers - they're being that are just like friends expect with lovers you can go pass the friendship level of doing things, like kissing, sex, which friends do too sometimes, though lovers have a different title like boyfriend/girlfriend. People use lovers as another way to release stress and also pass on their genes.
Also in relationships its kinda like christmas, you give someone something so they'll give you something back, because in a relationship both partners are benefitting from it, they make each other seem important, and show each other off to other people which makes both feel good and important because they're great enough to be shown off and because it shows they actually have friends and people that like them, because if you're all alone people usually pity loners for not having anyone, and other think that the loner must be extremely uncool and unimportant to not have people who want to be around them.
Other times its also to use people, like us students use the teacher to get a better education, we use our parents for a place to live and food to eat, probably because using other people makes us feel like we have more power than we really do, and one thing people want is control in their life.
Friendship for me its like having a different set of families just without the same blood running through our veins. Friends are people who you have fun with and enjoy being with, who make you happy and your life more meaningful. Friends are people we use to entertain us, people to pass time with, just like a toy or a pet.
Lovers - they're being that are just like friends expect with lovers you can go pass the friendship level of doing things, like kissing, sex, which friends do too sometimes, though lovers have a different title like boyfriend/girlfriend. People use lovers as another way to release stress and also pass on their genes.
Also in relationships its kinda like christmas, you give someone something so they'll give you something back, because in a relationship both partners are benefitting from it, they make each other seem important, and show each other off to other people which makes both feel good and important because they're great enough to be shown off and because it shows they actually have friends and people that like them, because if you're all alone people usually pity loners for not having anyone, and other think that the loner must be extremely uncool and unimportant to not have people who want to be around them.
Monday, April 26, 2010
HW#49
Unfortunately our video is unavailable right now so i'll be talking about Esther's video, but my contribution for our own video was just being another face in the class, and not pay attention to the teacher.
In Esther's video i think the message is that sometimes there is no saving things sometimes, and that even though sometimes the truth is thrown in our faces, but it just goes in one ear and out the other, we just ignore it. Like when the teacher is telling anybody where they'll probably end up and how they know nothing, and then right when he left everyone just went back to normal.
This film is quite different from all the other movies we've seem, in the movies the teacher actually got the students to pay attention to what he says, and if not all then most, and in Esther's film nobody really payed much attention to him, or did anything. And the teacher just left drunk in the end telling the students his opinion of them, i dont think we watch any movies with something like that happening at the end, though in the movies they do tell their opinion of their students to their face, as a part of trying to get them to cooperate with them out of shame maybe.
In Esther's video i think the message is that sometimes there is no saving things sometimes, and that even though sometimes the truth is thrown in our faces, but it just goes in one ear and out the other, we just ignore it. Like when the teacher is telling anybody where they'll probably end up and how they know nothing, and then right when he left everyone just went back to normal.
This film is quite different from all the other movies we've seem, in the movies the teacher actually got the students to pay attention to what he says, and if not all then most, and in Esther's film nobody really payed much attention to him, or did anything. And the teacher just left drunk in the end telling the students his opinion of them, i dont think we watch any movies with something like that happening at the end, though in the movies they do tell their opinion of their students to their face, as a part of trying to get them to cooperate with them out of shame maybe.
Monday, April 12, 2010
HW# 47
Ideas i have for our film projects are:
-the whole students rebelling teacher
-The students teach the teacher something
- shows the teacher with one or two students a few time outside of school, each time different students, as a sign of them getting close
-the teacher uses a different way of teaching the students, kinda rebelling against the school as well, maybe not in the beginning but in the middle of the beginning and later on as a sign that the students are changing him
- the teacher helps the student fight for whats right
-the whole students rebelling teacher
-The students teach the teacher something
- shows the teacher with one or two students a few time outside of school, each time different students, as a sign of them getting close
-the teacher uses a different way of teaching the students, kinda rebelling against the school as well, maybe not in the beginning but in the middle of the beginning and later on as a sign that the students are changing him
- the teacher helps the student fight for whats right
HW # 48
Karl Adams a new high school teacher, just finished with his studies, with only 2 years of elementary education for experience, has applied to work at Williams high school and got the job. He is now the new science teacher and everything seems to be fine but hes having trouble with one class. The class doesn't really listen to him and doesn't seem to want to do the work. He tries to take control but each days passes by without any good results. The elementary students he tutors after school sometimes behave better than his high school students.
Then he gets a great idea, he brings the elementary students he tutors in the class and have them sit in the front while he teaches class, and he then points out in a very mocking tone that elementary student are better well behaved, and continues on praising the younger kids. The lesson end with his high school students feel embarrassed and offended. The next day the students will actually be more calmer, not completely but a lot more.
The teacher and students finally start becoming close, especially after he save a student from an abusive teacher. The teacher tries to make the teaching system not as corrupt, and and he might not succeed in doing so, but he might change the people that teach the students, with the students help of course. And the ending might be like a goodbye scene, either the students graduating or maybe the teacher just leaves because he feels he accomplished something, and that his work there is done.
Then he gets a great idea, he brings the elementary students he tutors in the class and have them sit in the front while he teaches class, and he then points out in a very mocking tone that elementary student are better well behaved, and continues on praising the younger kids. The lesson end with his high school students feel embarrassed and offended. The next day the students will actually be more calmer, not completely but a lot more.
The teacher and students finally start becoming close, especially after he save a student from an abusive teacher. The teacher tries to make the teaching system not as corrupt, and and he might not succeed in doing so, but he might change the people that teach the students, with the students help of course. And the ending might be like a goodbye scene, either the students graduating or maybe the teacher just leaves because he feels he accomplished something, and that his work there is done.
Monday, March 15, 2010
HW# 45
Sizer:
"Schools, he argued, should abandon one-size-fits-all educational methods like standardized tests, grading and even the grouping of students into classes by age."
i agree with sizer that schools should change the ways they teach student, though i do not enjoy or agree to having to do exhibitions. But i think that "Setting these kinds of standards leads to "unfamiliar places"" would be more interesting to students than the regular standard version, which can get dull after a while. Having teachers that are so devoted to teaching and smart and willing to let their students take some charge, would be better to have, because thats what we teenagers want, to have some power in what we do, and to be able to do that in school seems more interesting than having to do whatever the teacher wants and just like every other kid.
Hirsch:
I think having younger kids do the standard method is good, because they're just starting school, and need to learn the basics, and get use to them, so i agree with that part of what Hirsch thinks. though i think as the kids get older or once they know the basics and are good at them, they can start the Sizer plan, because now they're older and have already gotten use to the Hirsch method, now they should try something different so that they dont get bored of school, and start not doing their HW or doing things, i think they should change method repeatedly.
"Schools, he argued, should abandon one-size-fits-all educational methods like standardized tests, grading and even the grouping of students into classes by age."
i agree with sizer that schools should change the ways they teach student, though i do not enjoy or agree to having to do exhibitions. But i think that "Setting these kinds of standards leads to "unfamiliar places"" would be more interesting to students than the regular standard version, which can get dull after a while. Having teachers that are so devoted to teaching and smart and willing to let their students take some charge, would be better to have, because thats what we teenagers want, to have some power in what we do, and to be able to do that in school seems more interesting than having to do whatever the teacher wants and just like every other kid.
Hirsch:
I think having younger kids do the standard method is good, because they're just starting school, and need to learn the basics, and get use to them, so i agree with that part of what Hirsch thinks. though i think as the kids get older or once they know the basics and are good at them, they can start the Sizer plan, because now they're older and have already gotten use to the Hirsch method, now they should try something different so that they dont get bored of school, and start not doing their HW or doing things, i think they should change method repeatedly.
Monday, March 8, 2010
HW#44
1) http://www.pennlive.com/editorials/index.ssf/2009/08/liberal_arts_education_why_it.html
Liberal arts education is useful for some i guess, but it seems kinda of like everyday normal high school classes, learning a bunch of different stuff, so this seems like for a person who actually enjoys learning more then one thing, like shakespeare, biology, and art, just like being back in high school just when shorter time. But it seems ideal for someone who doesnt like change of paste, or just doesnt know what to pick to learn.
I guess i can understand how some people would be kind of upset or offended with how underestimated liberal arts can be, since it doesnt seem like a course that'll get you a good job in the future, though learning more then one thing does seem more useful than just focusing on learning one specific thing, because just incase you cant get a job based on what you learned, you could always get another.
2) http://www.whitehouse.gov/MediaResources/PreparedSchoolRemarks/
Its people like these that throw into peoples head, that if you go to school, then you'll be successful. This speech didnt really seem that special, its was just another "celebrity" life story, and how people should try their best for a better tomorrow, to fill our life with hope, but its really no different then the stories you hear your parents tell you about how, "oh i never got to graduate high school [because of so and so reason] and because of that look where im working". Though some might actually be inspired by this speech, the majority probably would be like "oh wow, thats a really good speech" and then forget about it the next day and continue now to their normal day.
Not the people shouldnt try to inspire other, but at this point all the speeches are kind of same, i think to actually be able to change your views, you have to witness the type of life you dont want, whether your experiencing it, or not. Though i cant disagree with the president when he mention how you might not even know what you like until you experience it, which goes against my idea of just focusing on one type of lesson, i guess thats why we get different types of lessons in school before we get to college, so we can know what we like. Though sometimes the things you might be good at or interested arent taught at high school.
Liberal arts education is useful for some i guess, but it seems kinda of like everyday normal high school classes, learning a bunch of different stuff, so this seems like for a person who actually enjoys learning more then one thing, like shakespeare, biology, and art, just like being back in high school just when shorter time. But it seems ideal for someone who doesnt like change of paste, or just doesnt know what to pick to learn.
I guess i can understand how some people would be kind of upset or offended with how underestimated liberal arts can be, since it doesnt seem like a course that'll get you a good job in the future, though learning more then one thing does seem more useful than just focusing on learning one specific thing, because just incase you cant get a job based on what you learned, you could always get another.
2) http://www.whitehouse.gov/MediaResources/PreparedSchoolRemarks/
Its people like these that throw into peoples head, that if you go to school, then you'll be successful. This speech didnt really seem that special, its was just another "celebrity" life story, and how people should try their best for a better tomorrow, to fill our life with hope, but its really no different then the stories you hear your parents tell you about how, "oh i never got to graduate high school [because of so and so reason] and because of that look where im working". Though some might actually be inspired by this speech, the majority probably would be like "oh wow, thats a really good speech" and then forget about it the next day and continue now to their normal day.
Not the people shouldnt try to inspire other, but at this point all the speeches are kind of same, i think to actually be able to change your views, you have to witness the type of life you dont want, whether your experiencing it, or not. Though i cant disagree with the president when he mention how you might not even know what you like until you experience it, which goes against my idea of just focusing on one type of lesson, i guess thats why we get different types of lessons in school before we get to college, so we can know what we like. Though sometimes the things you might be good at or interested arent taught at high school.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Hw#42
Students nowadays are just not as interested in school as they use to be/should be, the school just teaches us what they, the adults, think is important for us to learn, which is to grow up smart, and get into a good college/school, and get a good paying job. Yet students are always complaining about how they're never going to use what the teachers are teaching in their life, so why don't schools start teaching things that we're going to need to know, thats important to know?
In other countries, like japan for example, they teach students home economics, here in NYC, not many school (nor any that i know) teach home economics, yet use teenagers always rant on how we cant wait until we move out of our parents place, and be free and independent, but when that comes, we need to know how to cook, clean, iron our clothes, because we probably wont have the money to keep sending it off to the cleaners since we're going to be new at the whole independent thing. Some students need that, sure we might know the basics, like scrambling and boiling eggs, and we need more than eggs, and cereal to survive without wasting our money away at some restaurant or store. Home economics, also helps with finances, which would be very helpful, because most teens don't really know where to go to get the best price, and if we did, they'd be able to save more money, for like bills, and rent.
Schools should be more like college kind of, where we get to pick the classes you want, because not all of us want to work in a job that has to do with biology, or chemistry. It'd probably more interesting that way, because we students get to choice for ourselves, and thats what we always want, to make the choices in our life. We dont want to just do whatever people tell us to do, we want to do things that interest us, and what sucks in learning about something we actually are interested in and maybe want to pursuit as a career.
In other countries, like japan for example, they teach students home economics, here in NYC, not many school (nor any that i know) teach home economics, yet use teenagers always rant on how we cant wait until we move out of our parents place, and be free and independent, but when that comes, we need to know how to cook, clean, iron our clothes, because we probably wont have the money to keep sending it off to the cleaners since we're going to be new at the whole independent thing. Some students need that, sure we might know the basics, like scrambling and boiling eggs, and we need more than eggs, and cereal to survive without wasting our money away at some restaurant or store. Home economics, also helps with finances, which would be very helpful, because most teens don't really know where to go to get the best price, and if we did, they'd be able to save more money, for like bills, and rent.
Schools should be more like college kind of, where we get to pick the classes you want, because not all of us want to work in a job that has to do with biology, or chemistry. It'd probably more interesting that way, because we students get to choice for ourselves, and thats what we always want, to make the choices in our life. We dont want to just do whatever people tell us to do, we want to do things that interest us, and what sucks in learning about something we actually are interested in and maybe want to pursuit as a career.
Monday, February 22, 2010
HW# 41
http://www.savingadvice.com/blog/2009/02/09/104053_home-economics-not-what-they-taught-me-in-high-school.html
In this blog, the women is ranting on how, back than home economics was more was becoming a servant to your husband, doing the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, and how to set the table neatly. But she states how what she best is, is at saving money, and making sure its not all spent, and how she had a hard time learning this skill, since it was never taught it to them in school.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secondary_education_in_Japan
It mentions how students are required to do home economics, because the government is trying to get them to be more aware of the importance of family life, the responsibility, the roles, and the cooperation, since family is important to them. Which reminds me of last school year, how most people put family first or second on making our life more meaningful, yet even though we say family is important to us and how most of us plan on having a family of our own when we get older, most new york city school don't have home economics, not even as a after-school activity. The last time i did any like home economics was elementary school, where i did cooking after-school, and in tenth grade, when we took care of a plant as if it was our "baby" though it was more of learning about plants than actually learning how to take care of a family/kid.
In this blog, the women is ranting on how, back than home economics was more was becoming a servant to your husband, doing the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, and how to set the table neatly. But she states how what she best is, is at saving money, and making sure its not all spent, and how she had a hard time learning this skill, since it was never taught it to them in school.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Secondary_education_in_Japan
It mentions how students are required to do home economics, because the government is trying to get them to be more aware of the importance of family life, the responsibility, the roles, and the cooperation, since family is important to them. Which reminds me of last school year, how most people put family first or second on making our life more meaningful, yet even though we say family is important to us and how most of us plan on having a family of our own when we get older, most new york city school don't have home economics, not even as a after-school activity. The last time i did any like home economics was elementary school, where i did cooking after-school, and in tenth grade, when we took care of a plant as if it was our "baby" though it was more of learning about plants than actually learning how to take care of a family/kid.
HW# 40
Part A
What do you think about school?
Alex - "its ok, i dont really like having to deal with all the work though, some is fun but most of it is so boring, plus i like seeing my friends, and boyfriend"
mom - "its important, it teaches you what you need to learn for the future to get a good job, i dont understand why you kids skip school"
Naomi - "It's stupid, and so annoying, you go there to learn a bunch of bullshit, things im never going to use in my life, I'm glad i left"
Oscar (8 yrs old) - "I think school should die! i like the other kids, but i cant play mario because of all the work"
Me - "its tiring, with all the work and then more work at home, and getting up early, but i do enjoy it sometimes, when i get to talk with my friends"
What would you change about school?
Alex - "i'd change the time we go to school in, its so tiring get up so early, also i'd make it so we dont get hw, because I'm already tired from going to CAT, than i gotta do my homework too"
mom - "i dont know, nothing? the schools seem to be doing fine"
Naomi - "I'd make it so there would be no school, but if there had to be i'd make it so it was more interesting, by making them teach interesting topics, instead of all that boring stuff"
oscar - "no homework! and longer lunch! and no work, just playing!!"
me - "i'd change the time school starts, also add in nap time, and make them teach things that i'll actually be able to use in life, like cooking, sewing, and other things, beside the things i know i wont remember when i get older, especially since i dont remember it now"
Part B
based on the interview, it seems that most people only like school because they get to socialize with the people they like to be, and how there are very little interest in the things we are taught. Like my mom was going on about how we need to stick with school to learn, because it'll help us survive when we're older, yet its not like probabilities will help me much when im older, i dont even remember it right now, and most of what we learn dont interest us, yet we still go to school even though we state its not worth it. We'd rather do over things that don't even help us with the future either, even less than school. Also alot of us say we'd change the time we start school, which shows how getting up early for school is not worth it, because having to get up early to do schoolwork is so tiring, yet we dont do anything about it, though some of us do skip.
What do you think about school?
Alex - "its ok, i dont really like having to deal with all the work though, some is fun but most of it is so boring, plus i like seeing my friends, and boyfriend"
mom - "its important, it teaches you what you need to learn for the future to get a good job, i dont understand why you kids skip school"
Naomi - "It's stupid, and so annoying, you go there to learn a bunch of bullshit, things im never going to use in my life, I'm glad i left"
Oscar (8 yrs old) - "I think school should die! i like the other kids, but i cant play mario because of all the work"
Me - "its tiring, with all the work and then more work at home, and getting up early, but i do enjoy it sometimes, when i get to talk with my friends"
What would you change about school?
Alex - "i'd change the time we go to school in, its so tiring get up so early, also i'd make it so we dont get hw, because I'm already tired from going to CAT, than i gotta do my homework too"
mom - "i dont know, nothing? the schools seem to be doing fine"
Naomi - "I'd make it so there would be no school, but if there had to be i'd make it so it was more interesting, by making them teach interesting topics, instead of all that boring stuff"
oscar - "no homework! and longer lunch! and no work, just playing!!"
me - "i'd change the time school starts, also add in nap time, and make them teach things that i'll actually be able to use in life, like cooking, sewing, and other things, beside the things i know i wont remember when i get older, especially since i dont remember it now"
Part B
based on the interview, it seems that most people only like school because they get to socialize with the people they like to be, and how there are very little interest in the things we are taught. Like my mom was going on about how we need to stick with school to learn, because it'll help us survive when we're older, yet its not like probabilities will help me much when im older, i dont even remember it right now, and most of what we learn dont interest us, yet we still go to school even though we state its not worth it. We'd rather do over things that don't even help us with the future either, even less than school. Also alot of us say we'd change the time we start school, which shows how getting up early for school is not worth it, because having to get up early to do schoolwork is so tiring, yet we dont do anything about it, though some of us do skip.
Monday, February 8, 2010
HW#39
A)
three interestings about school i've experienced:
Questions:
1)Why dont we have naptime and recess, when adults complain how unfocus we are, and how kids are becoming more overweight?
2)Why do we have to do homework? why cant we just do it in class like everything else?
3)Why do teachers care that we skip school
ideas:
1)I think teachers get mad at students for skipping, because they think it's a waste of time to go teach if nobody wants to show up.
2)I think school is both a good and bad thing, like we its good for us, but also affects us negatively as well.
3)I think the only reason we dont get naptime anymore is because adults want us to be able to go through things, regardless of being tired, because when we're older, we're not going to be able to just take a nap while we work, so i guess they think they're helping us.
experiences:
1)having to take the math and english regents in 10th grade, when from what people told me, we arent suppose to.
2)having to get up early in the morning, getting ready to for school, even though im exhausted.
3)having to do homework, when we could just do it at school
B)
When i wake up early in the morning, im so tired and so energy-less, and even though i dont want to, i go to school. Once i get home i just want to get some rest, lay down and sleep till next week, but i cant because i have to do my homework/projects, and that take me a while since im too tired to concenrate, and there are things around that distract me alot. Usually i end up falling asleep while doing my homework, and i wake up like around dinner time, and it take me a while to finish, and when i do finish its like 9-10 since i liked eatting my food cold, and i have to stay up later since i didnt finish my homework yet, and when i do go to bed, i cant sleep because my mind is still running, so i stay up even later, and i usually wake up at 6:30am, so im yet again tired in the morning, and the whole process repeats itself.
If we didnt get homework, us students would probably sleep better, and we can be more relaxed. Homework should be something we do during classes, [changing it to classwork], so that way we dont have to sweat over it at home, and if we dont get it, we can just ask the teacher since they're right there, instead of doing the work wrong, which doesnt help us, and instead of emailing, cause sometimes they dont reply, and this way our grades wont drop just b/c we're not doing HW. So why cant we just not have any HW, and just do it during class?
three interestings about school i've experienced:
Questions:
1)Why dont we have naptime and recess, when adults complain how unfocus we are, and how kids are becoming more overweight?
2)Why do we have to do homework? why cant we just do it in class like everything else?
3)Why do teachers care that we skip school
ideas:
1)I think teachers get mad at students for skipping, because they think it's a waste of time to go teach if nobody wants to show up.
2)I think school is both a good and bad thing, like we its good for us, but also affects us negatively as well.
3)I think the only reason we dont get naptime anymore is because adults want us to be able to go through things, regardless of being tired, because when we're older, we're not going to be able to just take a nap while we work, so i guess they think they're helping us.
experiences:
1)having to take the math and english regents in 10th grade, when from what people told me, we arent suppose to.
2)having to get up early in the morning, getting ready to for school, even though im exhausted.
3)having to do homework, when we could just do it at school
B)
When i wake up early in the morning, im so tired and so energy-less, and even though i dont want to, i go to school. Once i get home i just want to get some rest, lay down and sleep till next week, but i cant because i have to do my homework/projects, and that take me a while since im too tired to concenrate, and there are things around that distract me alot. Usually i end up falling asleep while doing my homework, and i wake up like around dinner time, and it take me a while to finish, and when i do finish its like 9-10 since i liked eatting my food cold, and i have to stay up later since i didnt finish my homework yet, and when i do go to bed, i cant sleep because my mind is still running, so i stay up even later, and i usually wake up at 6:30am, so im yet again tired in the morning, and the whole process repeats itself.
If we didnt get homework, us students would probably sleep better, and we can be more relaxed. Homework should be something we do during classes, [changing it to classwork], so that way we dont have to sweat over it at home, and if we dont get it, we can just ask the teacher since they're right there, instead of doing the work wrong, which doesnt help us, and instead of emailing, cause sometimes they dont reply, and this way our grades wont drop just b/c we're not doing HW. So why cant we just not have any HW, and just do it during class?
Sunday, January 24, 2010
HW#37 Final cool paper
Whats does being cool mean to you?
Most people would say that being cool is about fitting in, and being liked by nearly everybody, yet be envied, to be beautiful, stylish, and have a great personality, which varies with each person. People waste money to get expensive cool things, to make people like them more, because humans fear being alone. So coolness is a type of armor people wear to protect themselves from being uncool and the loneliness that comes from it.
From most of the people i asked about what being cool is like, they all said fitting in as the major thing about being cool, and some other traits, like tattoos, dying the hair, and looking good and having a nice personality, and a one or two said that being yourself is cool. When asked where they got this idea from, they mentioned things like magazines, TV, celebrities, and friends, which contradicts the part of being yourself because how can you be yourself when everything you do was taught to you, and influenced you. Like for example you were taught to act politely to people with power from your parents and teachers, and you were influenced by your friends and the media to act another way to be more cool, and fit in more, like getting a tattoo or piercing even though some parents dont like either of those things. So we can never really say we're being our true self when our true self is the result of all the teachings and influences you've gotten in your life.
To me being cool is someone who, again, fits in, someone who has a cool style, and has a nice, yet kind of bad assy personality, and is open to things. For example this story i wrote portrays what i consider is a cool person:
She had her choppy layered dyed a deep red hair pin up with some strands in her face, she had this bored yet patient expression on her face as she play with her piercings while she listen to her friend talk on and on.
"I just dont know what to do anymore, one minute hes all over me, and maddd sweet and the next hes around a bunch of other girls and acting like he never said those sweet words to me"
she sighs and looks her friend in the eye and speaks with a calm almost voice
"look dude, i really think you should just get over him, hes obviously just looking for some ass, so why dont you do yourself a favor and not be interested in him anymore" she puts her hand on her friends shoulder and grips it gently "you deserve better, so dont sweat over it"
her friend smiles, and seems to feel better
"you know, you're right, thanks you're the best" the friend hugs her, and says with a grin "you know if i was bi, i would totally fall for you
She grins back, winks and blow kisses
"who wouldnt" she says jokingly
In my story the character is one of those kind of "punkish" people, with those calm, almost emotion or apathetic voice, and the dyed hair and the piercings, and her personality was a calm one, almost non-caring, yet really sweet/nice, and silly too at times. My point of coolness kind of contradicts as well, because to be non-caring, you have to not care about anything at all, and we all care about being cool and fitting in, even if there arent many moments of those feelings, we still yearn for some companionship, its in our nature. Also the emotionless part, i think i got that from all those movies and stories where the main character is so emotionless, that it just becomes a part of the cool package, and also i guess because to be cool is to be strong and or to have power, and back then the people with power/strength were always emotionless because they couldn't let others know how much effect something has over them, because then that'll become a weakness, and when you're weak people have power over you, but even when you're cool it seems people still have power over you, to change you even if you always realize it. Like when i was little i didn't really understand crushes and was just some tomboy, but once i hit 8th grade and starting hanging out with girls instead of running around with the guys, i starting liking this one guy, and just people he liked the goth style, and clothes from hottopic, i started to dress like a goth, which did not make me cool, or make him notice me. Even though i was doing fine, and had some friends, and was considered somewhat cool, someone else who seem way cooler managed to change me into something that wasn't very common or popular afterwards. I guess you're only cool when its a kind of style thats actually common, which contradicts the whole "being different from others" part of being cool, or maybe it just depends on the person.
This really shows how much of media really influences our opinion of what cool is like. Like all the models and beautiful celebrities show us how much beauty really accounts to being cool, and we look at all the attention they get for it, and strive to become the same, because we want that attention as well. Also it isn't just media that affects us, the people you know affect how you act too. Like your friends will show you how to act in school, like skipping classes or school, or not doing you're homework. When i was little i would do all my homework and never skip school, but once i got to middle school, i started skipping a lot, and not do most of my work, because i'd rather be out chilling with my friends than in school, and skipping is a cool thing to do. You're gone for one day and than when you go back the next, people will start talking to you, to see if why you weren't there, and having all that attention on you makes you feel good because it means people notice you, which makes you feel less alone since you're significant enough to be remembered, even when you're not there, which makes you seem less alone.
There are a few reasons as too why we have this emptiness inside of us, it could be because we're just one out of many people in this world, and since there are so many, we can't help but feel as if we're just one piece of hay in a haystack, nothing special, no different than all the others, which is why we try to make ourselves stand out, even though there are still many people doing the same. We think if we change ourselves into something much more cooler, we'll seem more significant and more important. Also the fact that we're all going to end up dead might have something to do with it, who wouldn't like to be remembered even after we're no longer alive. So to make ourselves important enough to be remembered, we style ourselves in a way people are sure to stare. Because we all know we're going to die and fear it to the point of forgetting about it, we put ourselves into a different role we played before so people will look at us and know our existence and remember us, since "nobody likes to be forgotten", i know i wouldn't.
In conclusion, the definition of coolness varies depending on the person, but one thing that everyone seems to agree with is that being cool means you fit in and that our influences come from our surroundings, TV, computers, celebrities, friends, and family. Also that our want for being noticed comes from our want of being different from all the rest of the people in the world, and to be remembered as a significant person before we die. I think if we thought more on death and didn't seem to mind/fear is so much, we'd probably wouldn't try as hard to fit in, sure we'll still be trying to fit in, but not as hard as we'd be doing if we didn't distance ourselves from the thought of death. So in a way coolness really is just a armor we put on ourselves to protect us from the loneliness of rejection and being uncool.
Most people would say that being cool is about fitting in, and being liked by nearly everybody, yet be envied, to be beautiful, stylish, and have a great personality, which varies with each person. People waste money to get expensive cool things, to make people like them more, because humans fear being alone. So coolness is a type of armor people wear to protect themselves from being uncool and the loneliness that comes from it.
From most of the people i asked about what being cool is like, they all said fitting in as the major thing about being cool, and some other traits, like tattoos, dying the hair, and looking good and having a nice personality, and a one or two said that being yourself is cool. When asked where they got this idea from, they mentioned things like magazines, TV, celebrities, and friends, which contradicts the part of being yourself because how can you be yourself when everything you do was taught to you, and influenced you. Like for example you were taught to act politely to people with power from your parents and teachers, and you were influenced by your friends and the media to act another way to be more cool, and fit in more, like getting a tattoo or piercing even though some parents dont like either of those things. So we can never really say we're being our true self when our true self is the result of all the teachings and influences you've gotten in your life.
To me being cool is someone who, again, fits in, someone who has a cool style, and has a nice, yet kind of bad assy personality, and is open to things. For example this story i wrote portrays what i consider is a cool person:
She had her choppy layered dyed a deep red hair pin up with some strands in her face, she had this bored yet patient expression on her face as she play with her piercings while she listen to her friend talk on and on.
"I just dont know what to do anymore, one minute hes all over me, and maddd sweet and the next hes around a bunch of other girls and acting like he never said those sweet words to me"
she sighs and looks her friend in the eye and speaks with a calm almost voice
"look dude, i really think you should just get over him, hes obviously just looking for some ass, so why dont you do yourself a favor and not be interested in him anymore" she puts her hand on her friends shoulder and grips it gently "you deserve better, so dont sweat over it"
her friend smiles, and seems to feel better
"you know, you're right, thanks you're the best" the friend hugs her, and says with a grin "you know if i was bi, i would totally fall for you
She grins back, winks and blow kisses
"who wouldnt" she says jokingly
In my story the character is one of those kind of "punkish" people, with those calm, almost emotion or apathetic voice, and the dyed hair and the piercings, and her personality was a calm one, almost non-caring, yet really sweet/nice, and silly too at times. My point of coolness kind of contradicts as well, because to be non-caring, you have to not care about anything at all, and we all care about being cool and fitting in, even if there arent many moments of those feelings, we still yearn for some companionship, its in our nature. Also the emotionless part, i think i got that from all those movies and stories where the main character is so emotionless, that it just becomes a part of the cool package, and also i guess because to be cool is to be strong and or to have power, and back then the people with power/strength were always emotionless because they couldn't let others know how much effect something has over them, because then that'll become a weakness, and when you're weak people have power over you, but even when you're cool it seems people still have power over you, to change you even if you always realize it. Like when i was little i didn't really understand crushes and was just some tomboy, but once i hit 8th grade and starting hanging out with girls instead of running around with the guys, i starting liking this one guy, and just people he liked the goth style, and clothes from hottopic, i started to dress like a goth, which did not make me cool, or make him notice me. Even though i was doing fine, and had some friends, and was considered somewhat cool, someone else who seem way cooler managed to change me into something that wasn't very common or popular afterwards. I guess you're only cool when its a kind of style thats actually common, which contradicts the whole "being different from others" part of being cool, or maybe it just depends on the person.
This really shows how much of media really influences our opinion of what cool is like. Like all the models and beautiful celebrities show us how much beauty really accounts to being cool, and we look at all the attention they get for it, and strive to become the same, because we want that attention as well. Also it isn't just media that affects us, the people you know affect how you act too. Like your friends will show you how to act in school, like skipping classes or school, or not doing you're homework. When i was little i would do all my homework and never skip school, but once i got to middle school, i started skipping a lot, and not do most of my work, because i'd rather be out chilling with my friends than in school, and skipping is a cool thing to do. You're gone for one day and than when you go back the next, people will start talking to you, to see if why you weren't there, and having all that attention on you makes you feel good because it means people notice you, which makes you feel less alone since you're significant enough to be remembered, even when you're not there, which makes you seem less alone.
There are a few reasons as too why we have this emptiness inside of us, it could be because we're just one out of many people in this world, and since there are so many, we can't help but feel as if we're just one piece of hay in a haystack, nothing special, no different than all the others, which is why we try to make ourselves stand out, even though there are still many people doing the same. We think if we change ourselves into something much more cooler, we'll seem more significant and more important. Also the fact that we're all going to end up dead might have something to do with it, who wouldn't like to be remembered even after we're no longer alive. So to make ourselves important enough to be remembered, we style ourselves in a way people are sure to stare. Because we all know we're going to die and fear it to the point of forgetting about it, we put ourselves into a different role we played before so people will look at us and know our existence and remember us, since "nobody likes to be forgotten", i know i wouldn't.
In conclusion, the definition of coolness varies depending on the person, but one thing that everyone seems to agree with is that being cool means you fit in and that our influences come from our surroundings, TV, computers, celebrities, friends, and family. Also that our want for being noticed comes from our want of being different from all the rest of the people in the world, and to be remembered as a significant person before we die. I think if we thought more on death and didn't seem to mind/fear is so much, we'd probably wouldn't try as hard to fit in, sure we'll still be trying to fit in, but not as hard as we'd be doing if we didn't distance ourselves from the thought of death. So in a way coolness really is just a armor we put on ourselves to protect us from the loneliness of rejection and being uncool.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
HW#36 comments
To Chloe:
i like your whole how we use coolness to feel the emptiness we feel since we're all one out of a bunch of other people, and since we're all going to die anyways we want to make ourselves more significant. sorry if this version sucks D:.
Also maybe you can add the thing andy mentioned about how we fill empty since we're no longer attached to our mom, and how we use whatever cost to fill that emptiness, and maybe how you'll never really be able to fill that emptiness, just feel pleasure from the attention you're getting.
For you're maybe you can talk more about the roles we think, like name specific ones, and maybe add a story of how a person has so many things yet they still feel empty, i've read alot of stories like those, like where the king is living in a huge castle, surrounded by many maid, concubines and how hes still unhappy. you dont have to use this one, and of course you'll have to make your own with a non-happy ending since thats how most those types of stories end like.
To Conor:
Nice paper, but for the thesis maybe you could name out some of those wrong things you mentioned and how it connects to feeling empty, like we use coolness as a way to feel more significant, and fill the emptiness we feel that comes from [insert w/e you want talk about], yah sorry my example sucks.
We concentrate on things like the way we dress and the people who we're with so that way we know how to act cool, and fill significant, because we didnt we'd be labeled as an outcast, and being alone doesnt add any significance in our life, because then whose going to pay attention to us and shower us with compliments to make us forget about the emptiness inside of us.
yah sorry if sucks, you dont have to acknowledge it.
For your next paper you should mention where the emptiness comes from, (if you want to) and maybe go more deeper into the how we use things to make ourselves look cool, like give examples of them, like clothes style, piercings, hair, tattoos.
Also maybe mention more about the whole "real" and "fake" thing, like how we're not really our true self, since our actions/choices are the result of all the teachings we had and influences.
Also in Paragraph 1, liner # 3, theres a space in between dis and satisfaction, i dont know if its intentionally and dis is just slang, but i just thought maybe i should point it out.
i like your whole how we use coolness to feel the emptiness we feel since we're all one out of a bunch of other people, and since we're all going to die anyways we want to make ourselves more significant. sorry if this version sucks D:.
Also maybe you can add the thing andy mentioned about how we fill empty since we're no longer attached to our mom, and how we use whatever cost to fill that emptiness, and maybe how you'll never really be able to fill that emptiness, just feel pleasure from the attention you're getting.
For you're maybe you can talk more about the roles we think, like name specific ones, and maybe add a story of how a person has so many things yet they still feel empty, i've read alot of stories like those, like where the king is living in a huge castle, surrounded by many maid, concubines and how hes still unhappy. you dont have to use this one, and of course you'll have to make your own with a non-happy ending since thats how most those types of stories end like.
To Conor:
Nice paper, but for the thesis maybe you could name out some of those wrong things you mentioned and how it connects to feeling empty, like we use coolness as a way to feel more significant, and fill the emptiness we feel that comes from [insert w/e you want talk about], yah sorry my example sucks.
We concentrate on things like the way we dress and the people who we're with so that way we know how to act cool, and fill significant, because we didnt we'd be labeled as an outcast, and being alone doesnt add any significance in our life, because then whose going to pay attention to us and shower us with compliments to make us forget about the emptiness inside of us.
yah sorry if sucks, you dont have to acknowledge it.
For your next paper you should mention where the emptiness comes from, (if you want to) and maybe go more deeper into the how we use things to make ourselves look cool, like give examples of them, like clothes style, piercings, hair, tattoos.
Also maybe mention more about the whole "real" and "fake" thing, like how we're not really our true self, since our actions/choices are the result of all the teachings we had and influences.
Also in Paragraph 1, liner # 3, theres a space in between dis and satisfaction, i dont know if its intentionally and dis is just slang, but i just thought maybe i should point it out.
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Cool paper rough draft
Whats does being cool mean to you?
Most people would say that being cool is about fitting in, and being liked by nearly everybody, yet be envied, to be beautiful, stylish, and have a great personality, which varies with each person. People waste money to get expensive cool things, to make people like them more, because humans fear being alone. So coolness is a type of armor people wear to protect themselves from being uncool and the loneliness that comes from it.
From most of the people i asked about what being cool is like, they all said fitting in as the major thing about being cool, and some other traits, like tattoos, dying the hair, and looking good and having a nice personality, and a one or two said that being yourself is cool. When asked where they got this idea from, they mentioned things like magazines, TV, celebrities, and friends, which contradicts the part of being yourself because how can you be yourself when everything you do was taught to you, and influenced you. Like for example you were taught to act politely to people with power from your parents and teachers, and you were influenced by your friends and the media to act another way to be more cool, and fit in more, like getting a tattoo or piercing even though some parents dont like either of those things. So we can never really say we're being our true self when our true self is the result of all the teachings and influences you've gotten in your life.
To me being cool is someone who, again, fits in, someone who has a cool style, and has a nice, yet kind of bad assy personality, and is open to things. For example this story i wrote portrays what i consider is a cool person:
She had her choppy layered dyed a deep red hair pin up with some strands in her face, she had this bored yet patient expression on her face as she play with her piercings while she listen to her friend talk on and on.
"I just dont know what to do anymore, one minute hes all over me, and maddd sweet and the next hes around a bunch of other girls and acting like he never said those sweet words to me"
she sighs and looks her friend in the eye and speaks with a calm almost voice
"look dude, i really think you should just get over him, hes obviously just looking for some ass, so why dont you do yourself a favor and not be interested in him anymore" she puts her hand on her friends shoulder and grips it gently "you deserve better, so dont sweat over it"
her friend smiles, and seems to feel better
"you know, you're right, thanks you're the best" the friend hugs her, and says with a grin "you know if i was bi, i would totally fall for you
She grins back, winks and blow kisses
"who wouldnt" she says jokingly
In my story the character is one of those kind of "punkish" people, with those calm, almost emotion or apathetic voice, and the dyed hair and the piercings, and her personality was a calm one, almost non-caring, yet really sweet/nice, and silly too at times. My point of coolness kind of contradicts as well, because to be non-caring, you have to not care about anything at all, and we all care about being cool and fitting in, even if there arent many moments of those feelings, we still yearn for some companionship, its in our nature. Also the emotionless part, i think i got that from all those movies and stories where the main character is so emotionless, that it just becomes a part of the cool package, and also i guess because to be cool is to be strong and or to have power, and back then the people with power/strength were always emotionless because they couldn't let others know how much effect something has over them, because then that'll become a weakness, and when you're weak people have power over you.
This really shows how much of media really influences our opinion of what cool is like. Like all the models and beautiful celebrities show us how much beauty really accounts to being cool, and we look at all the attention they get for it, and strive to become the same, because we want that attention as well. Also it isn't just media that affects us, the people you know affect how you act too. Like your friends will show you how to act in school, like skipping classes or school, or not doing you're homework. When i was little i would do all my homework and never skip school, but once i got to middle school, i started skipping a lot, and not do most of my work, because i'd rather be out chilling with my friends than in school, and skipping is a cool thing to do. You're gone for one day and than when you go back the next, people will start talking to you, to see if why you weren't there, and having all that attention on you makes you feel good because it means people notice you, which makes you feel less alone since you're significant enough to be remembered, even when you're not there.
There are a few reasons as too why we have this emptiness inside of us, it could be because we're just one out of many people in this world, and since there are so many, we can't help but feel as if we're just one piece of hay in a haystack, nothing special, no different than all the others, which is why we try to make ourselves stand out, even though
Most people would say that being cool is about fitting in, and being liked by nearly everybody, yet be envied, to be beautiful, stylish, and have a great personality, which varies with each person. People waste money to get expensive cool things, to make people like them more, because humans fear being alone. So coolness is a type of armor people wear to protect themselves from being uncool and the loneliness that comes from it.
From most of the people i asked about what being cool is like, they all said fitting in as the major thing about being cool, and some other traits, like tattoos, dying the hair, and looking good and having a nice personality, and a one or two said that being yourself is cool. When asked where they got this idea from, they mentioned things like magazines, TV, celebrities, and friends, which contradicts the part of being yourself because how can you be yourself when everything you do was taught to you, and influenced you. Like for example you were taught to act politely to people with power from your parents and teachers, and you were influenced by your friends and the media to act another way to be more cool, and fit in more, like getting a tattoo or piercing even though some parents dont like either of those things. So we can never really say we're being our true self when our true self is the result of all the teachings and influences you've gotten in your life.
To me being cool is someone who, again, fits in, someone who has a cool style, and has a nice, yet kind of bad assy personality, and is open to things. For example this story i wrote portrays what i consider is a cool person:
She had her choppy layered dyed a deep red hair pin up with some strands in her face, she had this bored yet patient expression on her face as she play with her piercings while she listen to her friend talk on and on.
"I just dont know what to do anymore, one minute hes all over me, and maddd sweet and the next hes around a bunch of other girls and acting like he never said those sweet words to me"
she sighs and looks her friend in the eye and speaks with a calm almost voice
"look dude, i really think you should just get over him, hes obviously just looking for some ass, so why dont you do yourself a favor and not be interested in him anymore" she puts her hand on her friends shoulder and grips it gently "you deserve better, so dont sweat over it"
her friend smiles, and seems to feel better
"you know, you're right, thanks you're the best" the friend hugs her, and says with a grin "you know if i was bi, i would totally fall for you
She grins back, winks and blow kisses
"who wouldnt" she says jokingly
In my story the character is one of those kind of "punkish" people, with those calm, almost emotion or apathetic voice, and the dyed hair and the piercings, and her personality was a calm one, almost non-caring, yet really sweet/nice, and silly too at times. My point of coolness kind of contradicts as well, because to be non-caring, you have to not care about anything at all, and we all care about being cool and fitting in, even if there arent many moments of those feelings, we still yearn for some companionship, its in our nature. Also the emotionless part, i think i got that from all those movies and stories where the main character is so emotionless, that it just becomes a part of the cool package, and also i guess because to be cool is to be strong and or to have power, and back then the people with power/strength were always emotionless because they couldn't let others know how much effect something has over them, because then that'll become a weakness, and when you're weak people have power over you.
This really shows how much of media really influences our opinion of what cool is like. Like all the models and beautiful celebrities show us how much beauty really accounts to being cool, and we look at all the attention they get for it, and strive to become the same, because we want that attention as well. Also it isn't just media that affects us, the people you know affect how you act too. Like your friends will show you how to act in school, like skipping classes or school, or not doing you're homework. When i was little i would do all my homework and never skip school, but once i got to middle school, i started skipping a lot, and not do most of my work, because i'd rather be out chilling with my friends than in school, and skipping is a cool thing to do. You're gone for one day and than when you go back the next, people will start talking to you, to see if why you weren't there, and having all that attention on you makes you feel good because it means people notice you, which makes you feel less alone since you're significant enough to be remembered, even when you're not there.
There are a few reasons as too why we have this emptiness inside of us, it could be because we're just one out of many people in this world, and since there are so many, we can't help but feel as if we're just one piece of hay in a haystack, nothing special, no different than all the others, which is why we try to make ourselves stand out, even though
Monday, January 11, 2010
HW#34
When it comes to being cool, i dont think gender really places a big role, because its affects everyone, everyone is trying to be cooler regardless of what gender they are. Like both girls and boys have it hard, if a girl is muscular than shes made fun of, and also if shes really weak and cant stand up for herself, they shes made fun of has well, and with guys its, if the dude is way too buff, hes disgusting, if hes too weak, hes a pussy, so i dont think gender as much to do with it, back than when women were considered lower than men maybe, but now a days theres a bunch of strong independent women that are considered cool, musicians, women that join the army, that compete for higher power, so now women are like kinda equal to men.
Coolness might have something to do with race, like sometimes there are times when a certain race seems much more cooler than other regardless how people have different personalities, like for example, my friend got really into visual kei which is like "punk"/"goth" in a way in japan, and into the chinese side of her and i remember how obsessed/into asian people she became, like each time a asian guy would walk by she would check him out, and with other guys of different race she didnt really look at them. So i do think race does play a role, like with racism, if you're racist towards a person, then that person isnt cool to you, though i dont think its as strong with younger generation. Also class because its like race just with 4 stages rich, middle class, lower, homeless, and obviously homeless would be the lamest since they cant afford the things that are needed to be cool, and money is also one of the things that label a person as cool, though sometimes, money isnt the issue which is kind of rarely, but if you rock a certain style even if they're cheap clothes, if you wear them cooly then you can still be cool.
I dont really think its right to blame the person the way they when trying to be cool, because the person was taught to act that way, like they might've been brought up to be polite and do well in school by their parents, but with their friends they might be taught something different, like to rebel against their parents and do what "they" want, when they're really just following their friends. The media also plays into role, like instead of finishing college and getting a degree, they want to be a model instead because of how media makes beauty seem so important these days, so they wasted their parents money, only to do something that they think is good because of the influence media had on them. Though sometimes im not sure if you really can't just not blame a person, like in the op-ed piece by Orlando Patterson, they boys flunk, even though they know the consequences, which to me seems kind of stupid, and i would say to blame them, because if they know the consequences than why dont they try to change it, because by flunking school, you get a bad job, or you'll have to start selling drug, or sell yourself, and that only leads up to jail time, death over dispute, and out on the streets because you arent getting enough money to pay the rent, and yes sometimes people who went to college get bad jobs too, i think they still have a higher chance of getting a better job then someone who doesnt have a degree or a diploma. Though i would say to put the blame on the person who choices, i would still put the blame on the people that influenced him aswell, because he just didnt wake up one day with it in his mind to screw up, he was taught it, so i would probably say sometimes the blame is shared with both the person that choices that fate and the people that influenced that person.
Coolness might have something to do with race, like sometimes there are times when a certain race seems much more cooler than other regardless how people have different personalities, like for example, my friend got really into visual kei which is like "punk"/"goth" in a way in japan, and into the chinese side of her and i remember how obsessed/into asian people she became, like each time a asian guy would walk by she would check him out, and with other guys of different race she didnt really look at them. So i do think race does play a role, like with racism, if you're racist towards a person, then that person isnt cool to you, though i dont think its as strong with younger generation. Also class because its like race just with 4 stages rich, middle class, lower, homeless, and obviously homeless would be the lamest since they cant afford the things that are needed to be cool, and money is also one of the things that label a person as cool, though sometimes, money isnt the issue which is kind of rarely, but if you rock a certain style even if they're cheap clothes, if you wear them cooly then you can still be cool.
I dont really think its right to blame the person the way they when trying to be cool, because the person was taught to act that way, like they might've been brought up to be polite and do well in school by their parents, but with their friends they might be taught something different, like to rebel against their parents and do what "they" want, when they're really just following their friends. The media also plays into role, like instead of finishing college and getting a degree, they want to be a model instead because of how media makes beauty seem so important these days, so they wasted their parents money, only to do something that they think is good because of the influence media had on them. Though sometimes im not sure if you really can't just not blame a person, like in the op-ed piece by Orlando Patterson, they boys flunk, even though they know the consequences, which to me seems kind of stupid, and i would say to blame them, because if they know the consequences than why dont they try to change it, because by flunking school, you get a bad job, or you'll have to start selling drug, or sell yourself, and that only leads up to jail time, death over dispute, and out on the streets because you arent getting enough money to pay the rent, and yes sometimes people who went to college get bad jobs too, i think they still have a higher chance of getting a better job then someone who doesnt have a degree or a diploma. Though i would say to put the blame on the person who choices, i would still put the blame on the people that influenced him aswell, because he just didnt wake up one day with it in his mind to screw up, he was taught it, so i would probably say sometimes the blame is shared with both the person that choices that fate and the people that influenced that person.
HW#33 paper outline
Thesis: people strive to become cool to fill up the emptyness they feel inside
paragraph1: other peoples defition of cool, and why, and where was it inspired from
paragraph2: my defittion of coolness, example my story (or another story since that one sucks), and my experiences with piercings, and my want for a tattoo, where i got my inspiration
paragraph3: how media influences us
Paragraph4: where this want to be cool, to be wanted came from (maybe put this together with paragraph3 depending on how long pargraph3 is)
Paragraph5: contradictions with being cool, and whats having to behaving properly and the cost of it
conlusion: a summary of it all, and mention a few new things, like more about tattoos (include the talk Mr. Fanning did), how we're manipulating eachother, mention Goffman's idea of preformer, and character and the difference.
paragraph1: other peoples defition of cool, and why, and where was it inspired from
paragraph2: my defittion of coolness, example my story (or another story since that one sucks), and my experiences with piercings, and my want for a tattoo, where i got my inspiration
paragraph3: how media influences us
Paragraph4: where this want to be cool, to be wanted came from (maybe put this together with paragraph3 depending on how long pargraph3 is)
Paragraph5: contradictions with being cool, and whats having to behaving properly and the cost of it
conlusion: a summary of it all, and mention a few new things, like more about tattoos (include the talk Mr. Fanning did), how we're manipulating eachother, mention Goffman's idea of preformer, and character and the difference.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
HW#32 tattoos
Now a days tattoos are really popular, it's either you have one or you're planning to have one. Its really amazing how popular they've become, back then, tattoos were for initiating, and the "bad" crowd, kind of like how back then if you pierced your left ear you're in a gang, and if pierced your right ear you're gay. Tattoos are more of a appearance base kind of thing, people get them so that people will look at they differently, whether it be bad or good, its still attention. Like with Mr.Fanning he got his tattoo for getting in a band, you know to add to the punk rock appearance and too look cool. Especially now that nearly everybody is getting a tattoo.
Like i personally want tattoos and i admit i want them so i can catch the attention of other people, even though people can argue that stabbing a foreign substance into your body isn't very healthy. Though most people will say they got because they liked it which is true, and because it symbolizes something, its still for attention, like back then they would mark up their bodies as a sign of becoming a man, and those tattoos are so that people will look at them and know right away that their adults, that they're mature.
Also when Mr.Fanning mention how his tattoos were an armour for him, because most of the time people associate them with masks, like oh he got a tattoo right after me and in the same spot, what a fake, hes just trying to be cool. But to him it was an armour, which is strange consider, people can get really sick from getting tattoos, but when i start thinking about how its an armour, i think about how armours protect people from getting hurt from whats around them, so does that mean that tattoos are a protection against reality? i mean like ipod people block out the world and just insolate themselves, but i guess with tattoos its more in the way of fitting in, because if you get a tattoo you're cool and you're protected from being a complete loser and unwanted.
Like i personally want tattoos and i admit i want them so i can catch the attention of other people, even though people can argue that stabbing a foreign substance into your body isn't very healthy. Though most people will say they got because they liked it which is true, and because it symbolizes something, its still for attention, like back then they would mark up their bodies as a sign of becoming a man, and those tattoos are so that people will look at them and know right away that their adults, that they're mature.
Also when Mr.Fanning mention how his tattoos were an armour for him, because most of the time people associate them with masks, like oh he got a tattoo right after me and in the same spot, what a fake, hes just trying to be cool. But to him it was an armour, which is strange consider, people can get really sick from getting tattoos, but when i start thinking about how its an armour, i think about how armours protect people from getting hurt from whats around them, so does that mean that tattoos are a protection against reality? i mean like ipod people block out the world and just insolate themselves, but i guess with tattoos its more in the way of fitting in, because if you get a tattoo you're cool and you're protected from being a complete loser and unwanted.
Monday, January 4, 2010
HW 31
Part A-
Question: why did you get a tattoo?
Answer: Because I wanted to, i like it, its cute no?, i feel that it describes me as a person
thoughts: I think she did get a tattoo that she liked, but i think she got the tattoo more because of how popular tattoos are. I think because there's so many people saying how tattoos are soo cool, that she was influenced to get it, so it was more to fit in than just doing it because she truly wanted to.
Part B-
my own aspects: skinny jeans, piercings, Jack bag
I remember back when we wore those hip-hugging-flared out at the bottom- jeans, and how they were so popular, and i remember how much i loved wearing them, but once skinny jean became popular in school, that changed. At first i had rebelled against it, but then i looked at the jeans and saw how people made them look so nice, and hot, that i started wearing them. Now whenever i go shopping i wont buy any other jeans than skinny jeans, because i hate how the baggy jeans look on me now. I think even though you try to fight against it, you can never truly win, you can rebel for a while but it will eventually get to you.
Also besides the piercings i had since i was a baby, i got another one, a cartilage piercing, and i remember being sooo happy to get it, even though my dad didnt like it, and i know my influence came from celebrities , and stories i've read, because they always have the coolest piercings, and a bunch of them too. I know when i got my piercing i always said "i got it because i wanted to" but now that i look back, i really just got it because of how cool it made people look, and in middle school i did want to be cooler since i was really that popular, so why not get a piercing something that not a lot people in my school were getting. Though it didnt make me popular, so i think these things dont really work for anybody, i think you have to have a lot of other factors mixed into the formula. Now that i think back to it. i feel slightly put out about how easily swayed i am, how much power other people have other me. I think now im a tiny bit better than how i was back then, even now i feel unconsciously strive for attention, like getting a skeleton doll bag, now that i think about it, i thought i got it because i just liked it, but i also got it for the attention people me when they stop me to talk about my bag, or ask me where i got it and how cute it is.
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